As always, my goal for the year was 30 books. I finished with 27.
My Top Five Recommendations from the Year, in no particular order:
5. The End of Education, by Neil Postman
4. The Good Neighbor : The Life and Work of Fred Rogers
2. Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind by Yuval Noah Harari
“Education wasn’t what he wanted to perform on the world. He was after transformation.” pg 44
“Never underestimate the ability of a small group of committed individuals to change the world . . . indeed, they are the only ones who ever have.” pg 164
“The goal was to improve the lives of others, not oneself.” pg 244
Could easily be considered in the top five of books on education I’ve ever read.
Here are a few of my favorite quotes:
“There is no one who can say that this or that is the best way to know things, to feel things, to see things, to remember things, to apply things, to connect things and that no other will do as well. In fact, to make such a claim is to trivialize learning, to reduce it to a mechanical skill” (pg 3).
“The measure of a narrative’s ‘truth’ or ‘falsity’ is in its consequences: Does it provide people with a sense of personal identity, a sense of community life, a basis for moral conduct, explanations of that which cannot be known? . . . without a narrative, life has no meaning. Without meaning, learning has no purpose. Without a purpose, schools are houses of detention, not attention.” (pg 7).
“All gods are imperfect, even dangerous” (pg 11).
“What makes public schools public is not so much that the schools have common goals but that the students have common gods. The reason for this is that public education does not serve a public. It creates a public . . . the question is, what kind of public does it create? (pg 18).
“The evidence for the superiority of one method over another is usually given in the language of statistics, which, in spite of its abstract nature, is strangely referred to as ‘hard evidence’ . . . there was a time when educators became famous for providing reasons for learning; now they become famous for inventing a method” (pg 26).
“Economic Utility . . . is a passionless god, cold and severe. But it makes a promise, and not a trivial one. Addressing the young, it offers a covenant of sorts with them: If you will pay attention in school, and do your homework, and score well on tests, and behave yourself, you will be rewarded with a well-paying job when you are done” (pg 27).
“The idea of school is that individuals must learn in a setting in which individuals needs are subordinated to group interests . . . at present, most scenarios describing the uses of computers have children solving problems alone” (pg 45).
“ . . . the reason why students are demoralized, bored, and distracted is not that teachers lack interesting methods and machinery but that both students and teachers lack a narrative to provide profound meaning to their lessons” (pg 51).
“Into this pond were flushed the ashes of some four million people. And that was not done by gas. It was done by arrogance. It was done by dogma . . . When people believe that they have absolute knowledge . . . this is how they behave. This is what men do when they aspire to the knowledge of the gods” (pg 69) - Bronowski attempting to create a religious metaphor of Auschwitz.
“All children enter school as question marks and leave as periods” (pg 70).
“Sameness is the enemy of vitality and creativity {and} excellence, for where there are few or no differences - in genetic structure, in language, in art - it is not possible to develop robust standards of excellence . . . the law of diversity thus makes intelligent humans of us all” (pg 78, 79, 81).
“Students should not play life, or study it merely, while the community supports them at this expensive game, but earnestly live it from beginning to end. How could youths better learn to live than by at once trying the experiment of living?” (pg 94).
“A sense of responsibility for the planet is born from a sense of responsibility for one’s own neighborhood” (pg 100).
“In learning about differences, we become less afraid and therefore more courageous. In learning about commonalities, we become more hopeful” (pg 110).
“There is nothing more human than the stories of our errors and how we have managed to overcome them and ten fallen into error again, and continued our efforts to make corrections - stories without end . . . ‘To remain ignorant of things that happened before you were born is to remain a child.” (pg 124).
“At present, there is very little tolerance for errors in the classroom. That is one of the reasons students cheat. It is one of the reasons students are nervous. It is one of the reason many students are reluctant to speak. It is certainly the reason why students (and the rest of us) fight so hard to justify what they think they know” (pg 125).
“We are imperfect souls, our knowledge is imperfect. The history of learning is an adventure in overcoming our errors” (pg 128).
A Possible Final Exam:
“Describe five of the most significant errors scholars have made in (biology, physics, history, etc.). Indicate why they are errors, who made them, and what persons are mainly responsible for correcting them” (pg 128).
“It is the role of the teacher to provide objectivity, which means to guide the inquiry with as much open-mindedness as possible” (pg 160).
“Everything we know has its origin in questions. Questions, we might say, are the principal intellectual instruments available to human beings” (pg 173).
“Our language habits are at the core of how we imagine the world” (pg 176).
Technology education: “It is somewhat embarrassing that this needs to be proposed as an innovation in schools, since Americans never tire of telling themselves that they have created a technological society. They even seem to be delighted about this and many of them believe that the pathway to a fulfilling life is through continuous technological change. One would expect then that technology education would be a familiar subject in American schools. But it is not. Technology may have entered the schools but not technology education” (pg 189).
It is said that we are are the sum of the five people we hang out with most. I’ve often wondered if the same could be said about the books (or the types of books) we read. If so, I hope to read a lot more like this one. I can only assume it will make me a better person.
Here are a few of my favorite quotes:
“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’”
“I want children to know that it’s hard to learn something new, and that grown-ups make mistakes” (pg 9).
“You don’t set out to be rich or famous; you set out to be helpful” (pg 10).
“Nothing can replace the influence of unconditional love in the life of a child . . . Children love to belong, they long to belong” (pg 18).
“His mother was deeply religious, but her life was more joyous. More than anything else, she communicated to her son the rewards of service to others” (pg 38).
“What a difference one person can make in the life of another” (pg 46).
“And now here is my little secret, a very simple secret: It is with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye . . . truth always {comes} from the heart, not from an overintellectualization of life” (pg 50-51).
“The real issue in life is not how many blessings we have, but what we do with our blessings. Some people have many blessings and hoard them. Some have few and give everything away” (pg 72).
“Fred Rogers lived out the conundrum of modern life: embracing technology and using it in imaginative ways to benefit children, while rejecting the dehumanizing aspects of complex technological advancement” (pg 80).
“Rogers later estimated that they had about 150 dollars a week for their show, but that amount was taken up by their salaries. In effect, they had virtually no money to buy or develop programming. All they had was their own imaginations” (pg 94).
“He always felt that actions - kindness, understanding, and openness in relationships - were more important than words” (pg 115).
“All our lives, we rework the things from our childhood, like feeling good about ourselves, managing our angry feelings, being able to say good-bye to people we love” (pg 154).
“Our job in life is to help people realize how rare and valuable each one of us really is - that each of us has something that no one else has - or ever will have - something inside which is unique to all time. It’s our job to encourage each other to discover that uniqueness, and to provide ways of developing its expression” (pg 237).
“Children are starving for story, the kind that builds on hope, the kind that echoes for a lifetime. We need story in our lives, not dreams based on greed” (pg 255).
“When I was a boy I used to think that strong meant having big muscles, great physical power; but the longer I live, the more I realize that real strength has much more to do with what is not seen. Real strength has to do with helping others” (pg 323).
“One of the major goals of education must be to help students discover a greater awareness of their own unique selves, in order to increase their feelings of personal worth, responsibility, and freedom” (pg 328).
“How many clothes can you wear? How many cars can you drive? How big of a shelter do you really need? Some people get so caught up in the trappings of life I feel they lose what is real. Deep and simple - that’s what matters” (pg 337).
“I’ve never tried to make a decision that had to do with selfishness” (pg 339).
“Change can - and does - make life better in so many ways. But even when it is delivering improvement, it can be disruptive and unsettling. Inevitably, we look for someone or something to blame: It must be government, interfering with our lives and putting chocks under our wheels. Or we blame the other: those other countries or people or ethnic groups that are not like us and may be competing for advantage” (pg 359).
Podcasts with Fred:
David Newell
Having been with Mr. Rogers Neighborhood since its inception in 1967, David has been the show’s Properties Manager, Associate Producer and Director of Public Relations. David continues to make personal appearances as an ambassador for the Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood series.
via Moth Radio Hour
For more one . . .
Some of my favorite quotes . . .
“What we’ve seen is full of the kids of stereotypes that are the reason no one is interested in the Native Story in general, it’s too sad, so sad it can’t even be entertaining, but more importantly because of the way it’s been portrayed, it looks pathetic, and we perpetuate that, but no, fuck that, excuse my language, but it makes me mad, because the whole picture is not pathetic, and the individual people and stories that you come across are not pathetic or weak or in need of pity, and there is real passion there, and rage . . .” (pg 40).
“{Teddy Roosevelt} was hunting bear one time, but then found this real scraggly old hungry bear, and he refused to shoot it. Then in the newspapers, there was a comic about the hunting story that made it seem like Mr. Roosevelt was merciful, a real nature lover, that kinda thing. Then they made the little stuffed bear and named it Teddy’s Bear. Teddy’s Bear became teddy bear. What they didn’t say was that he slit the old bear’s throat. It’s that kind of mercy they don’t want you to know about.
And how do you know about any of this?
You gotta know about the history of your people. How you got to be here, that’s all based on what people done to get your here. Us bears, you Indians, we been through a lot. They tried to kill us. But then when you hear them tell it, they make history seem like on big heroic adventure across an empty forest. There were bears and Indians all over the place. Sister, they slit all our throats” (pg 51).
“We need to be about what we’re always saying we’re about” (pg 105).
“Some of us got this feeling stuck inside, all the time, like we’ve done something wrong. Like we ourselves are something wrong. Like who we are deep inside, that thing we want to name but can’t, it’s like we’re afraid we’ll be punished for it. So we hide. We drink alcohol because it helps us feel like we can be ourselves and not be afraid. But we punish ourselves with it. The thing we most don’t want has a way of landing right on top of use” (pg 185).
“We all fuck up. It’s how we come back from it that matters” (pg 186).
“You feel a rush of sadness for your mom and her failed Christianity, for your failed family. How everyone lives in different states now. How you never see them. How you spend so much time alone. You want to cry and feel you might but know you can’t, that you shouldn’t. Crying ruins you. You gave it up long ago. But the thoughts keep coming about your mom . . .” (pg 222).
For more one . . .
Given to me by an emerging friend, at exactly the right time.
“When we talk about personal balance, we are referencing everything that really makes you who you are - what are the “titles” outside of your job, and how do you cultivate them” (pg xxi)?
“Positional balance . . . Whatever you do that earns income or provides you financial stability . . .” (pg xxi).
“Professional balance is just that - how are you continuing to learn, grow, and enhance your knowledge and understanding of your role” (pg xxi)?
Passions: What I would do for free (pg xxii).
“We do not learn from experience . . . we learn from reflecting on experience” (pg 35).
“We take care of our phones better than our bodies. We know when our battery is depleted” (pg 36).
“The most authentic thing about us is our capacity to create, to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love, and to be greater than our suffering” - Ben Okri (pg 43).
“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” - Winston Churchill (pg 51).
“Many of you have likely reached a point in your life where you do not want it all, but you do want a rich life, full of deep interactions, long-lasting memories, and opportunities fot follow your personal and professional calling” (pg 60).
“I never lose - I either win or learn” - Nelson Mandela (pg 63).
“Many educators believe in “servant leadership” as a pillar philosophy and recoil at the idea of selfishness. We believe that self-care is not selfish, and in fact, being healthy allows us to be more selfless” (pg 66).
“Leisure is only possible when we are at one with ourselves, We tend to overwork as a means of self-escape, as a way of trying to justify our existence” (pg 74).
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” (pg 75).
“Never stop learning, because life never stops teaching. A wise girl knows her limits, a smart girl knows she has none” - Marilyn Monroe, (pg 81).
“To succeed with deep work, you must rewire your brain to be comfortable resisting distracting stimuli” (pg 96).
“You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead pursue the things you love doing and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off of you” - Maya Angelou (pg 105).
“Each person has special talents - the things you enjoy doing when they are away from school. Making intentional time to cultivate your dream and following through with courage and discipline is important not only for you, but for the students you serve. So don’t hide it from your students! You strive to find out as much as you can about their passions, but how often do you share your passions with them?” - “Identity Day”, a school day devoted to students AND teachers sharing on thing they are passionate about (pg 106)
“Each time i pulled off the work “Band-aid” just to relax and enjoy life, I returned to work rejuvenated and with a clear mind, able to be more productive and focused” (pg 112).
“If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading” - Lau Tzu (pg 115).
“The longer you wait to do something you should do now, the greater the odds that you will never actually do it” - The Law of Diminishing Intent (pg 124).
For more one . . .
In response to my the reading:
It happened again. This time, in Thousand Oaks, California. You and I both know how the days and weeks to come will play go.
“Our thoughts and prayers go out to . . .” we will hear whispered from podiums, while “Enough is enough” banners are posted on websites, blogs, and social media. And for a brief, brief moment, the country will be unified in grief, shock, and horror of what our country has become. Then someone will point the finger of blame. Then another. Then another. Until everyone is pointing, shouting, and condemning, calling for reform, calling for justice, and demanding someone does something to stop this madness.
All the while, someone somewhere will have made a plan, written a note, or posted a video. Right under our tear-stained cheeks and upturned noses. Just like they did in Columbine, almost 20 years ago.
“Eric Harris was a psychopath,” David Cullen concludes in his New York Times bestseller, Columbine, “he was a narcissist, he was a sadists. He wasn’t out to bully bullies, he was out to hurt the people he looked down upon . . . humans.” He wanted to destroy everyone, all of us. Yet fortunately, he only made it to thirteen. He had planned for many more.
According to the investigation that followed Columbine, Eric Harris wanted to go down as a legend. He wanted to make a mark bigger than the Oklahoma City bombings and he wanted to be remembered forever. So he planted bombs in the park on the other side of town, set to go off as a diversion for the cops. Luckily, they didn’t. Neither did the propane tanks in the cafeteria (which would have killed hundreds) nor the bombs in his and Dylan’s cars (which were set to detonate after the police and paramedics arrived, killing them too). In fact, Eric and Dylan never intended to enter the school. Their plan was to wait outside and pick off the surviving few as they fled the carnage of Columbine.
But things didn’t go according to Eric’s plan, hardly anything in fact, except for one seemingly minor detail: the media was there, and they granted Eric Harris his deepest dying wish. He became famous.
Dave Cullen, an author and elite journalist, was “one of the first reporters on the scene” at Columbine. He then spent the next ten years writing Columbine, which is “widely recognized as the definitive account” of the school’s massacre, and for many of the 300-plus pages of his heart-wrenching book, Cullen spends a great deal of time talking about who Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold were, what happened in the days prior, during, and after the infamous shooting, and how people from across the country responded.
But that’s not why he wrote the book. He wrote it because he was trying to figure out why Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold did it. Once answered, he concludes his book with the most important takeaway of his journey: how to prevent this from ever happening again, and who is responsible.
His findings are not extenuating.
Dave Cullen’s conclusion of who is responsible for Columbine and every shooting and massacre is not a familiar one, nor is it a popular, but it is the most accurate and reliable one.
The answer of who is responsible, according to Cullen, is us. We are responsible. Malcolm Gladwell says the same, but where Gladwell fails to provide a solution, Cullen does. It is us. We are the solution.
Let me explain. Or rather, let Cullen explain.
Almost 100% of the time, the perpetrator of mass killings is male, and “{f}or his glorious week,” Cullen explains, “the spectacle killer is the hottest star on earth. He dwarfs any sports champ, movie star, president, or pope . . . They spill a little blood, {and} the whole world knows who they are . . . His face splashed across every screen, his name across the lips of every person on the planet, all in the course of one day. Seems the more people you kill, the more you’re in the limelight.”
So, “If you’re planning a spectacle murder,” Dave Cullen once told a CNN anchor, “here’s what you do:
{There are} two routs to the elite club with the star treatment: body count, or creativity. Choose body count, and you’ve got to break the top ten. The media loves scorekeeping and will herald your achievements with a banner beneath the victims as they grieve. For creatives, go for originality and horror . . . Maximize the savage nature. Make us fear movies theaters, or churches or {school} - and a Joker costume at a Batman movie takes theatrics literally. Live TV was a great twist - only took two victims in Roanoke to get the big-star treatment. Surprise us.
The anchor was justifiably horrified, but that was the point. “These are the tactics the killers have turned on us so callously,” Cullen writes, “They cracked the media code. Easily.” And if the media care about ending this, “we in the media need to see our role as clearly as the perps have. We did not start this, nor have we pulled any triggers. But the killers have made us reliable partners. We supply the audience, they provide the show” (pg 380).
In these few short paragraphs, Cullen models the role we all need to take after events such as these occur: point the finger at ourselves, find where we are responsible, and take ownership of it. Just like Andy Dufresne.
Like everyone else, my favorite scene in Shawshank Redemption is the one where Andy Dufresne emerges from the septic tanking, raises his hands to the air, and is finally free from the deathly Shawshank prison. But it wasn’t until I read those lines from Cullen that I understood why I love that scene, and how Andy Dufresne was able to get there.
Throughout the first half of the movie, the audience is left in the dark as to Andy’s involvement with his wife’s murder. There’s that scene in the beginning, of him stumbling from his car, drunk, and carrying a gun, but nothing more. He adamantly denies killing his wife, but we are never fully convinced of his innocence. Till we hear the story of Elmo Blatch, an old cellmate of Tommy’s, and then our suspicions are confirmed, Andy Dufresne is completely innocent and absolved from the murder of his wife. Somehow, though, that isn’t enough. The movie isn’t entitled Shawshank Absolvement, it is Shawshank Redemption, and Andy is not yet redeemed. That comes later, after Tommy has been killed and Andy beaten, placed into solitude for calling the warden “obtuse”, and at the brink of ruin. And like Cullen, as he comes to grip with the harsh reality of what has happened and who is to blame, his hammer of judgement falls to no one else but himself.
“I killed her Red,” Andy he says with a dull sincerity to Morgan Freeman as they sit in the yard, leaning against the giant stone wall, locked in Shawshank Redemption. “I didn’t pull the trigger but I drove her away. And that’s why she died, because of me.”
Red leans down and sits on his heals, “That doesn’t make you a murderer,” he counters, and he’s right. But so is Andy. He didn’t pull the trigger, but he did play a part. A small part perhaps, or at the very least a forgivable part (no on goes to prison for being a bad husband), but a part none the less. And once Andy is finally able to see that, he is able to admit it. And once he admits it, Shawshank could no longer contain him. He is free.
A few scenes later, he climbs into a sewage pipe and crawls to redemption.
“We did not start this, nor have we pulled any triggers”, Cullen admits, echoing Red’s “That doesn’t make you a murderer.” But Cullen, like Andy, isn’t content with being absolved. He wants freedom. Freedom from a grey and deathly prison, freedom from guilt and shame, and freedom from fear that this will indeed happen again. So he accepts his portion of the blame, “we supply the audience, they provide the show.” He acknowledges his responsibility and admits his complicit role. Then, like Andy Dufresne, he climbs into the sewage pipe and beckons us to do the same.
We, on the other hand, continue to sit in horror and amazement, waiting for someone to unlock the cell.
“For the past few years,” Jason Kottke writes, “whenever a mass shooting occurs in the US that gets wide press coverage, the satirical news site The Onion runs an article with this headline written by Jason Roeder: ‘“No Way To Prevent This,”’ Says Only Nation Where This Regularly Happens’.”
After each mass shooting, our nation raises it’s hands in grief and disbelief, “How does this keep happening?” Then, because there is never a clear answer, we quickly defend ourselves, our beliefs, and our rights, leaving many people absolved, very few freed, and even fewer redeemed.
There are two definitions offered for redeemed:
the action of saving or being saved from sin, error, or evil.
the action of regaining or gaining possession of something in exchange for payment, or clearing a debt.
Both require an admittance. Both require action. Neither point to someone or something else.
I, like the rest of our country, desperately long for these headlines to be eradicated from our headlines. I’ve also been convicted by Cullen and Andy and believe that casting the blame onto others will only perpetuate the acts. But because I’m not a journalist, I cannot rest with Cullen’s admittance. I must find my own, as an educator.
So far, I’ve come up with three.
“Education is inherently selfish” I found myself saying to a room full of educators, “we spend so much time and effort convincing kids to pursue school and grades so they can better themselves and their future” I said, “we encourage them to follow their dreams and be whatever they want to be, but for what purpose?” I found myself trying not to look at a particular school that has geared their entire program around personalized learning and a system that focuses on each kid as an individual, that teaches each kid to learn at their own pace, in their own way, completely isolated from their peers.
Why school? Why do kids have to go? And why do they have to take the classes that they do? A school I once taught for attempted to answer that question with a giant poster that hung in the hallway for each student and teacher to read. “Do it for you,” and it bothered me every single day.
Is that why kids need to be in school? So that they can go to college, get a nice job, and buy nice things? Or is it so that they can collect experiences and enjoy life? So they can learn how to “Follow their heart”? If so, no wonder they’re miserable.
After they’ve pursued every relationship, dating the hottest boy or girl they can find, after they’ve driven the coolest car, bought the the newest technology, and worn the nicest clothes, what next? After sex, popularity, success, and whatever else their hearts desire. what happens when they’re still miserable, empty, and without direction?
Daniel Pink, author of Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us, says, “When the product motive becomes unmoored from the purpose motive, bad things happen” (via). The purpose of education, as is written and expressed today, has become unmoored from the deeper more existential purpose: to discover our gifts and talents, to hone them, and then figure out ways to give them away. To serve others.
And for that, I am responsible.
Teachers and coaches (perhaps even parents), my friend Glen Walenda once theorized on one of my recent blog posts, “often treat {children} as future people instead of people. We are so blinded by their potential we don't see them in the present.” In doing so, we concentrate on the superficial, the tangible, and the quantifiable measurements that will help them succeed (whatever that means) later on in life, when they’re future people.
Because that’s what how we know we are doing a “good job,” when our students are scoring well and paying attention in class. It’s also how we’re failing.
The best comedy, according to George Carlin, is a process of digging through the layers of humanity. Instead of simple jokes, the best comedians spend their time talking about feelings and who we are, our loves and likes, our fears and nightmares, and the stuff that makes us, us. That makes them, them. The human being stuff. The stuff that no standardized test or classroom assessment can ever measure.
Curriculum, teaching strategies, and assessments are important and necessary to gauge learning, but how to live life, how to work through struggles and celebrate victories, how to engage humanity and find our purpose in life, these are what we stay alive for. These are why we learn. But because we cannot measure them, no funding is attached to them, and because it is easier to grade knowledge rather than character, education focuses on GPAs rather than character, compliance rather than curiosity; it focuses on the future people rather than the now people.
For that, I am responsible.
The most “influential and inspiring people,” according to John Dickson, “are often marked by humility” which is “the noble choice to forgo your status, deploy your resources or use your influence for the good of others before yourself” (pg 24). Fred Rogers would agree. “The real issue in life,” Fred Rogers believed, “is not how many blessings we have, but what we do with our blessings. Some people have many blessings and hoard them. Some have few and give everything away” (via).
Schools, however, don’t often teach students to give their resources and blessings away. Instead, we focus on individualized learning, valedictorians, and high GPA’s. We focus on counting our blessings and building resumes.
We buy letterman jackets, award honor rolls, and crown kings and queens.
People of character, however, focus on how they can best give away their gifts and resources rather than hoarding them. They care more about their classmates, their community, and whoever else might be in need. They rarely focus on their own.
They care more about living in harmony than they do standing in the spotlight.
“Harmony,” the poet, theologian, and philosopher John O’Donohue states, is everything uniquely itself, “and by being uniquely itself, part of a greater community” (via). Sadly, I have not taught that enough in my classes.
I have focused on the uniqueness of each individual, but not on how their uniqueness fits into the great whole. I have focused on their gifts, their talents, and dreams they want fulfilled, but I have not taught them well enough the responsibility of those gifts, and the joys of giving them to others. I have focused to much time on developing their resume virtues, not their eulogy virtues.
I didn’t pull the trigger on any mass shootings, but that doesn’t mean I don’t play a part or that I’m unable to prevent the next one. Because I’m an educator, I’m responsible for building and guiding a culture. And so far, I haven’t done the best of job.
For that, I am responsible.
Andy Dufresne crawled through “five hundred yards of shit smelling foulness, {we} can’t even imagine.” Dave Cullen did the same. For ten years. Then, like Andy, he emerged, clean and redeemed on the other side.
Like Andy and Cullen, we didn’t pull the trigger. But we have pushed each other away for the sake of ourselves. And that’s why we die.
If we, as a country, truly do believe enough is enough, that “No one should ever have to go through this. Period”, and that, names of victims on the back of shirts just isn’t enough, than we too must be willing to endure the worst we can imagine and take whatever responsibility we can upon ourselves and change. We must choose another rather than ourselves, our freedoms, and our rights.
If we can do that. Then, maybe, just maybe we too can emerge from this shit-smelling foulness that isn’t hard to imagine. And when we do, like Andy and Cullen, we too can be free, and clean on the other side.
We can find redemption.
The Value of Empathy:
For most of us, the more recognition we get for our efforts from those in charge, the more successful we thing we are . . . for all the technology he has at his disposal, empathy, is the single greatest asset he has to do his job (pg 8).
When you have people who trust you, they’re going to do a better job for your to ear or keep that trust (pg 13).
This is what happens when the leaders of an organization listen to the people who work there . . . Working with a sense of obligation is replaced by working with a sense of pride. And coming to work for the company is replaced by coming to work for each other (pg 14).
Belonging:
United States Marines are better equipped to confront external dangers because they fear no danger from each other (pg 24) . . . it should be the goal of leadership to set a culture free of danger from each other. And they way to do that is by giving people a sense of belonging (pg 26).
When the Circle is strong and that feeling of belonging is ubiquitous, collaboration, trust, and innovation result . . . We cannot tell people to trust us. We cannot instruct people to come up with big ideas. And we certainly can’t demand that people cooperate. These are always results - the results of feeling safe and trusted among the people with whom we work (pg 29).
The Whitehall Studies reveal that “it is not the demands of the job that cause the most stress, but the degree of control workers feel they have throughout their day” (pg 35).
“You can’t laugh and be afraid at the same time” (pg 49).
“Yes, it’s true, we hate all that e-mail, but we live for the ding, the buzz or the flash that tells us something’s there” (pg 53).
“Those who work hardest to help others succeed will be seen by the group as the leader or the ‘alpha’ of the group. And being the alpha - the strong, supportive one of the group, the one willing to sacrifice time and energy so that others may gain - is a prerequisite for leadership” (pg 59).
Why We Have Leaders:
“Leadership is the choice to serve others with or without any formal rank . . . It’s okay for leaders to enjoy all the perks afforded to them. However, they must be willing to give up those perks when it matters . . . Trust is not simply a matter of shared opinion. Trust is a biological reaction to the belief that someone has our well-being at heart. Leaders are the ones who are willing to give up something of their own for us . . . they only become leaders when they accept the responsibility to protect those in their care . . . The only thing our leaders ever need to do is remember whom they serve and it will be our honor and pleasure to serve them back” (pg 82, 83).
The Courage to do the Right Thing:
“In weak organizations, without oversight, too many people will break the rules for personal gain. That’s what makes the organizations weak. In strong organizations, people will break the rules because it is the right thing to do for others” (pg 93).
“Our search for happiness and connection has also led us to seek professional advice. In the 1950s, few of us went to weekly sessions with a therapist. Today in the U.S., according to the Hoover Institute, there are 77,000 clinical psychologists, 192,000 clinical social workers, 105,000 mental health counselors, 50,000 marriage and family therapists, 17,000 nurse psychotherapists, and 30,000 life coaches. The only reason the filed continues to grow is because of increasing demand. The more we try to make ourselves feel better, the worse we seem to feel” (pg 96).
Death by E-mail (my title):
“The death of one man is a tragedy,” Joseph Stalin reportedly said, “The death of a million is a statistic.” pg 136
“Real live human interaction is how we feel a part of something, develop trust and have the capacity to feel for others. It is how we innovate (pg 141).
An online community gives shy people a chance to be heard, but the flip side is it also allows some to act out in ways they probably never would in real life” (pg 140).
“As social animals, it is imperative for us to see the actual tangible impact of our time and effort for our work to have meaning and for us to be motivated to do it even better. . . our bosses telling us how important our work is, is nowhere near as powerful as us getting to see it ourselves” (pg 147).
“If another colleague told us that over the weekend they volunteered their time to paint a school in the inner city, what would you think of them? ‘That’s cool,’ we’d think to ourselves, ‘I should do more.’ Simply hearing about the time and energy someone gave to others can inspire us to want to do more for others too” (pg 151).
Goethe: “You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him” (pg 163).
“Building trust requires nothing more than telling the truth” (pg 192).
On Multitasking:
“Multitasking, it turns out, does not make us faster or more efficient. It actually slows us down . . . In a Stanford University study of college students, self-proclaimed chronic multitaskers made more mistakes and remembered less than those who considered themselves infrequent multitaskers. Another Stanford study found evidence to suggest that chronic multitaskers were worse at analytical reasoning as well (pg 257).
“If we are to remain globally competitive in today’s world, we need to produce more than just a few entrepreneurs and innovators. We need to develop the creative and enterprising capacities of all our students” (pg 4).
“the greatest innovations of the 21st century will be those that have helped to address human needs more than those that had created the most profit” (pg 6).
“Innovation may then be defined as the process of having original ideas and insights that have value, and then implementing them so that they are accepted and used by significant numbers of people” (pg 8).
“Incremental innovation is about significantly improving existing products, processes, or services. Disruptive or transformative innovation on the other hand, is about creating a new or fundamentally different product or service that disrupts existing markets and displaces formerly dominant technologies” (pg 10).
Seven Survival Skills of Innovators:
Critical thinking and problem solving
Collaboration across networks and leading by influence
Agility and adaptability
Initiative and entrepreneurship
Accessing and analyzing information
Effective oral and written communication
Curiosity and imagination
Tim Brown’s Five Characteristics of “Design Thinkers”
Empathy
Integrative thinking
Optimism
Experimentalism
Collaborators
Leader: “someone who will take control of the situation verses waiting to be led.” The ask, “How can I make things better?” (pg 15).
Innovators have the following qualities:
Curiosity, which is a habit of asking good questions and a desire to understand more deeply
Collaboration, which begins with listening to and learning from others who have perspectives and expertise that very different from your own
Associative or integrative thinking
a bias toward action and experimentation (pg 16)
“If you look at 4-year olds, they are constantly asking questions and wondering how things work. But by the time they are 6.5 years old they stop asking questions because they quickly learn that teachers value the right answers more then provocative questions. High school students rarely show inquisitiveness. And by the time they’re grown up and are in corporate settings, they have laready had the curiosity drummed out of them. 80% of executives spend less then 20% of their time on discovering new ideas . . . The problem is that school sometimes treat {curiosity} as a bad habit . . . like any habit, creativity can either be encouraged or discouraged” (pg 17).
“It’s a lot easier to name the things that stifle innovation like rigid bureaucratic structures, isolation, and a high-stress work enviornment” (pg 23).
“Expertise and creative thinking are an individual’s raw materials - his or her natural resources, if you will. But a third factor - motivation - determines what people will actually do” (pg 25)
Intrinsic motivation, play, passion, and purpose: Whether - and to what extent - parents, teachers, mentors, and employers encourage these qualities make an enormous difference in the lives of young innovators” (pg 26).
“A child has to get bored before he can figure out how to get himself out of the boredom, and a lot of that happens out of door” (pg 36).
Empowerment: “students can go out and apply what they’ve learned to the problems that they’ve never seen before with the parts that they’ve never used before” (pg 50).
“The most important aspect of being in an innovative environment is not being afraid to fail” (pg 67).
“So often in school, the what-if question is eliminated, but that’s the source of true creativity and innovation” (pg 97).
“Our education system does not encourage risk-taking and penalizes failure, and too many parents and teachers believe that a “safe” and lucrative career in business or law or medicine is what young people should strive for - rather than something to do with ‘changing the world’” (pg 113).
“Without a reason - without passion and purpose - many disadvantaged young people simply can’t tolerate the tedium of school. Passion and purpose are what give them hope, a clear focus, and a reason to acquire the skills and the knowledge they will need to succeed” (pg 128).
“What you know is far less important that what you can do with what you know. The interest in and ability to create new knowledge to solve new problems is the single most important skill that all students must master today. All successful innovators have mastered the ability to learn on their own ‘in the moment’ and then apply that knowledge in new ways” (pg 142).
Traditional classrooms are all about instructor control. You tell students what’s important to learn and why and then you evaluate them. I’ve come to realize a lot of responsibility and choices can and should be turned over to the learner” (pg 163).
For more one . . .
In January 1457, a domestic sow and her six pigs were charged with murdering and partly devouring an infant. “The sow was found guilty and sentenced to death by hanging”, but her offspring were pardoned, “partly because of their youth . . . and the fact that their mother had set them a bad example,” (via).
The mother, for her part, was “hanged and strangled on a gibbet of wood, near the gallows” (via), as an example to the other pigs and livestock on how they were expected to behave.
Because in the mid 1400’s, animals were running amuck, and they needed to be held accountable.
In his 1906 book, The Criminal Prosecution and Capital Punishment of Animals, historian E.P. Evans recounts dozens upon dozens of instances where animals were put on trial and convicted for their crime: sparrows were prosecuted for chattering in Church, a cock burnt at the stake for laying an egg, and sheep, according to Criminal, “a true podcast that understands crime,” were being tried, sentenced, and executed “for seducing men into more than friendly relationships” (via).
It was a very scary time young sheep in America.
At any given time, a man could see a sheep, misinterpret it’s bleating and body language for sexual advances, and be unable to control himself. He would have to have that sheep.
And the sheep - not the man - would be held accountable.
“Eventually,” the podcast continues “people decided that criminal intent wasn’t something you could ascribe to animals” and a sort of paradise was restored. For the sheep, at least.
According to RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network), an American is sexually assaulted every 98 seconds. “Every 8 minutes, that victim is a child,” with” only six out of every 1,000 perpetrators” ending up in prison.
Six out of 1,000! That number is abhorring. So too is the fact that “{n}o more than 20 percent of rapes are reported to the police” (via), a number that many find unbelievable. “If it was as bad as you say,” the argument goes, “if he was doing something you didn’t want, why didn’t they scream or fight back? Why didn’t they fight for their life?”
And the answer, unfathomable to many, is that by staying silent and allowing it to happen is exactly what they were doing, fighting for their lives.
“One of the things that is difficult for most of us {to understand} about a rape,” Dr. Lisak states, “is that there doesn’t have to be a gun to the head, there doesn’t have to be a knife present, there doesn’t have to be a verbalized threat for the act itself to be enormously terrifying and threatening.
There is a difference between sexual violence and other forms of assault. Sexual violence is so intimate.” When your body is penetrated by another person against your will. It often induces a uniquely powerful kind of terror. According to many peer-reviewed studies, a large percentage of the victims of non-stranger rapes “actually feared they were going to be killed,” even when “there was no weapon and no overt violence.”
Staying silent means staying alive, so too is remaining silent. “Around 90% of rapes are committed by known men, and often by someone who the survivor has previously trusted or even loved. People are raped in their homes, their workplaces and other settings where they have previously felt safe” (via). Rapists can be friends, colleagues, clients, neighbors, family members, partners or exes”, not some stranger hiding in the bushes. It’s someone they see consistently, that they know by name, and that will probably see in their house, at work, or at the next family reunion.
Which makes the allegations all the more difficult, because the victim will be asking family and friends to face each other rather than stand united. And that, according to Judith Lewis Herman in Trauma and Recovery, is extremely difficult. “It is morally impossible,” she writes, “to remain neutral in {cases of sexual assault}”, because “{t}he bystander is forced to take sides.”
It is very tempting to take the side of the perpetrator. All the perpetrator asks is that the bystander do nothing. He appeals to the universal desire to see, hear, and speak no evil. The victim, on the contrary, asks the bystander to share the burden of pain. The victim demands action, engagement, and remembering . . .
Victims of sexual assault demand empathy. Sadly, however, what they often receive is apathy. “Boys will be boys,” they hear echoing from police officers, school administrators, lawyers, friends, and the many others who are meant to serve and protect them. “You shouldn’t have been drinking,” victims are told, or “Look at what you’re wearing” and “why did you put yourself in that position?”
Instead of empathy, victims are often attacked and maligned for speaking out. Instead, they are held accountable for the perpetrators actions, or mocked on live television.
“Drunk guys,” Krakauer writes in his terrifying book, Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a College Town, “who may have ‘made mistakes’ nearly always get the benefit of the doubt. Drunk girls, however, do not” (via).
Why is that?
The answer - or problem, rather - seems to be that we, as a country, lack empathy. At least for those unlike ourselves.
In the classic novel, “To Kill a Mockingbird,” Atticus finds himself defending Tom Robinson, a black man, before a white jury. Tom Robinson has been accused of raping a white woman, but the evidence against the claim is as clear and as simple as “black and white.” Atticus, the judge, and every person in the courtroom knows Tom Robinson is innocent, but because black men were considered little more than cattle, it wasn’t shocking to expect a black man to pay the price for a white man’s (or woman’s) sins.
Atticus understood this. He understood that in order to win and save Tom Robinson, he needed the jury to empathize with the victim; he needed them to see and understand Tom Robinson like they saw and understood themselves - as human. A task as murky and complicated as black and white.
“You know the truth,” Atticus states, “and the truth is this: some Negroes lie, some Negroes are immoral, some Negro men are not to be trusted around women - black and white.” And you can almost see the jury, nodding their heads in approval, perhaps even whispering, “them Negros” under their breath or quietly in their minds. But then, Atticus asks them to reach towards empathy.
But this is a truth that applies to the human race and to no particular race of men. There is not a person in this courtroom who has never told a lie, who has never done an immoral thing, and there is no man living who has never looked upon a woman without desire.”
Atticus paused and took out his handkerchief. Then he took off his glasses and wiped them” (pg 205).
It is here, perhaps, that Atticus lost the jury, and the point were Tom Robinson was sentenced to death for a crime he didn’t commit. In order for the jury to acquit Tom Robinson, they would have to empathize with him. And in order to empathize with him, they would have to admit that they, white men, were similar to a black man. And if they were similar to a black man, that would mean black men weren’t property or cattle, they were human. And if they were human, then the white population would have a lot of explaining and reconciling to do.
Instead, they convicted him of a crime he didn’t commit, as an example of how they were expected to behave.
It was also an example and reminder to themselves and their fellow white Americans, because if they sided with Tom Robinson, if they took his word over the white man’s - if they empathized with him - they would reduce the gap of power. And if they lost the gap of power, they might lose control. If they lost control, the African American community would have a voice and the ability to defend themselves against the white power. They could also accuse it. And that would be extremely dangerous for the young white men of the coming generation.
So they chose to avoid empathy and embrace power. They decided to keep things as they were: divided, and imbalanced.
It is often said that history is written by those who win, by those who have the power. But so too is the present.
Those in power decide what is real and what is fake. They determine who is right and who is wrong, and perhaps most importantly, they decide who is responsible. Be it sheep, black America, or woman.
But the thing is, “Women don’t get raped because they were drinking or took drugs,” writes Jessica Valenti, a Guardian US columnist, “Women do not get raped because they weren’t careful enough. Women get raped because someone raped them” (via).
Sure, woman can become better educated on how to defend themselves, where they should or shouldn’t go, on how much is too much to drink, and on how to recognize the warning signs of a possible sexual assault.
Or, men can just stop sexually assaulting women.
It is a scary time for young men. It is a scary because if they are consistently allowed to behave like animals, if they are not be held accountable for their actions, and if we as a country do not collectively begin to expect more from them, it is indeed scary to think of the men they will become.
And the offices they will hold.
I haven’t read a book like this before - always thought it too elementary, but I did enjoy this reading. If nothing else, as a change of scenery.
I was asked to read it for another teacher who wanted some input on how to make it more relatable to her small-town American kids. The best answer I can come up with is that it isn’t all that different from Americans seeking their own revolution. We just didn’t have bombs, planes, or media. So that’s what I would do, compare it to the American revolution so the kids see these often times very stereotyped countries as more similar than they are different: people wanting freedom of choice, ability to live and provide, and make a difference.
“If you want to live a life you’ve never lived, you have to do things you’ve never done” (pg 15).
“We’re all busy, but it’s the people who make enjoying their lives a priority who, um, enjoy their lives” (pg 57).
“The only questions you ever need to consider when making decisions about your life are:
Is this something I want to be, do, or have?
Is this going to take me in the direction I want to go?
Is this going to screw over anybody else in the process (pg 64)?
“There’s no better way to fall prey to outside input than when you’re feeling insecure. And there’s no better way to feel insecure than knowing you half-assed something or don’t really believe in what you’re doing. No matter what it is - raising your prices or raising your children - if you do the absolute best you possible can, and come from a place of integrity, then you can be proud of yourself and not give a damn about what anyone else thinks” (pg 68).
“The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty yes to your adventure” (pg 71).
“When we share what were brought here to give, we are in alignment with our highest, most powerful selves” (pg 72).
“It’s through our thoughts that we create our realities . . . your thoughts and beliefs dictate your reality, so if you want to change your reality, you ahve to change your beliefs.” (pg 93, 94).
“If you wanna stay stuck in the same place and keep getting spanked with the same lessons over and over, be negative, resentful, and victimized. If you want to get over your issues and rock your life, be grateful, look for the good and learn . . . write your thank-you notes!” (pg 120).
“Forgiveness means giving up all hope for a better past” - Lily Tomlin
“Sometimes the road to freedom lies in deciding you’d rather be happy than right” (pg 125).
“What you choose to focus on becomes your reality” (pg 137).
“If you’re serious about changing your life, you’ll find a way. If you’re not, you’ll find an excuse” (pg 153).
“We tiptoe through life trying to safely make it to death” - unknnown
When successful people were asked the secret to their success, the overwhelming majority answer: tenacity (pg 199).
“GED recipients look exactly like high-school dropouts, despite the fact they they have earned this supposedly valuable extra credential, and despite the fact that they are, on average, considerably more intelligent than high-school dropout” (pg xviii).
“Those traits - an inclination to persist at a boring and often unrewarding task; the ability to delay gratification; the tendency to follow through on a plan - also turned out to be valuable in college, in the workplace, and in life generally . . . GED holders are wise guys who lack the ability to think ahead, persist in tasks, or to adapt to their environments” (pg xix).
“You can’t expect to solve the problems of a school without taking into account what’s happening in the community” (pg 5).
“The key channel through which early adversity causes damage to developing bodies and brains is stress (pg 12).
Quantifying Character:
Grit
self-control
zest
social intelligence
gratitude
optimism
curiosity
“The best way for a young person to build character is for him to attempt something where there is a real and serious possibility of failure . . . and in most highly academic environments in the United States, no one fails anything” (pg 85, 86).
“Habit and character are essentially the same thing . . . It’s not like some kids are good and some kids are bad. Some kids have good habits and some kids have bad habits. Kids understand it when you put it that way, because they know habits might be hard to change, but they’re not impossible to change. William James says our nervous systems are like a sheet of paper. You fold it over and over and over again, and pretty soon it has a crease . . . When your students leave, you want to make sure they have the kind of creases that will lead them to success later on” (pg 94).
“Two of the most important executive functions are cognitive flexibility and cognitive self-control. Cognitive flexibility is the ability to see alternative solutions to problems, to think outside the box, to negotiate unfamiliar situations. Cognitive self-control is the ability to inhibit an instinctive or habitual response and substitute a more effective, less obvious one” (pg 114).
“Non-cognitive skills like resilience and resourcefulness and grit are highly predictive of success in college” (pg 168).
Introduction:
“The difference between more effective principals and their less effective colleagues is not what they know. It is what they do” (pg xi).
“Education is extremely complex, and so is school leadership” (pg xi).
It’s People, Not Programs:
The quality of the teachers determines our perceptions of the quality of the school” (pg 5).
“Get better teachers or improve the teachers you already have” (pg 5).
“Programs are not the solution, and they are rarely the problem” (pg 6).
“Ineffective principals paid much less attention to individual growth. Instead, they focused their efforts on whole-school goals and issues. As school leaders, we must recognize that no matter what programs we introduce or seek to strengthen, our most important work is to improve the people in our schools” (pg 10).
Develop an Accurate Sense of Self:
“The principal who ‘doesn’t have time’ to praise teachers regularly may not realize how many less important tasks could - and should - be delegated to other so that they can focus on more important things like nurturing staff members” (pg 15).
“The most valuable gift a principal can give teachers is confidence” (pg 17).
Any time a teacher refers a student to the office, it’s a big deal to them, so be sure to let that teacher know it matter to you too. Always inform the parent so that the student is not off the hook, then “close the gap by getting back to the referring teacher after taking action” (pg 18).
Who is the Variable?
“ . . . effective principals viewed themselves as responsible for all aspects of their school” (pg 21).
. . . effective principals viewed themselves as the ultimate problem solver” (pg 21).
Be the Filter:
“We must keep our attention on the issues that matter, not divert our effort and energy to trivial annoyances” (pg 36).
“I wanted the teachers to be more excited about teaching tomorrow than they were today” (pg 37).
Teach the Teachers:
Great principals focus on students - by focusing on teachers.
Get teachers into each other’s classrooms (pg 44).
Hire Great Teachers:
A principal’s single most precious commodity is an opening in the teacher staff (pg 49).
Understanding the Dynamics of Change:
“ . . . it can take anywhere from three to nine years, to bring about substantive change” (pg 57).
“Average people tend to thing of solutions that make their job easier” (pg 61).
Standardized Testing
Care most about “ . . . staff motivation, teacher morale, school culture and climate, and student behavior” (pg 65).
Focus on Behavior, then Focus on Beliefs:
“Effective principals recognize the difficulty of changing a person’s lifelong beliefs” (pg 71).
“ . . . effective principals believe in the power of praise. As long as they praise correctly . . . we cannot praise too much . . . we must teach them the techniques of appropriate praise and get them to try it” (pg 74).
“ . . . if we can swallow our pride and ask them for their opinions in advance when appropriate (and after the fact when that is our only option), all of us can improve our skills and practice something that the best principals consistently do” (pg 83).
Understand the High Achievers:
“The very best leaders ignore minor errors” (pg 97).
“Teachers who say they are burned out were probably never on fire in the first place” (pg 102).
“Our first staff members can succeed anywhere, doing just about anything. if we do not take care of them, someone else will, and we will have squandered our most valuable resource” (pg 103).
Make it Cool to Care
“ . . . the key is to develop and establish a school-wide environment that supports everyone’s effort to do what is right” (pg 106).
. . . “the clash between Vogtians and Bolaugians is heated because it is less about facts than about values . . . Prophets look at the world as finite, and people as constrained by their environment. Wizards see possibilities as inexhaustible, and humans as wily managers of the planet . . . Wizards regard Earth as a toolbox, its contents freely available to use; Prophets think to the natural world as embodying an overarching order that should not casually be disturbed” (pg 8).
“Human-ness is the quality - a mix of creativity, drive, and moral awareness - that transforms humans into persons. It is a special spark or spirit, unique among living creatures, a flame possessed in abundance by our heroes, possessed in small amounts by all” (pg 29).
“Only as humans were reduced to humankind did humans gain their humanity” (pg 30).
“Humans grab ‘about 40% of the present net primary production in terrestrial ecosystems’ - 40 percent of the entire world’s output of land plants and animals” (pg 35).
“Economists talk about the ‘discount rate’ which is their term for the way that humans almost always value the local, concrete, and immediate over the faraway, abstract, and distant in time. We care more about the broken stoplight up the street now than social unrest next year in Chechnya, Cambodia, or the Congo” (pg 36).
{From the roots of the Prophet} “‘ If the present drift be not changed, we whites are all ultimately doomed,’ {Lothrop Stoddard} wrote in Rising Tide. The disappearance of Caucasians ‘would mean that the race obviously endowed with the greatest creativity ability, the race which had achieved most in the past and which gave the richer promise for the future, had passed away, carrying with it to the grave those potencies upon which the realization of man’s highest hopes depend’” (pg 79") . . . but also, “‘Our forefathers,’ {Vogt} thundered, were ‘one of the most destructive groups of human beings that have ever raped the earth. They moved into one of the richest treasure houses ever opened to man, and in a few decades turned millions of acres of it into shambles’” (pg 87).
“Until something has a name, it can’t be discussed or acted upon with intent” (pg 89).
“To the question of how to survive, his work said: be smart, make more, share with everyone else” (pg 96).
“Hungry people are lured by promises, but may be won by deeds. Communism makes attractive promises to underfed peoples; democracy must not only promise as much, but must deliver more” (pg 120).
We’ve got to do something. “Much like Vogt, Borlaug was acquiring a sense of mission - a shiver in the spine that would drive him for the rest of his life” . . . yet neither “gave any thought to how the consequences of their ideas would ripple across the world” (pg 131).
“the health of the soil, plant, and animal were linked to each other, that fertile soil held the key to increased crop yield, and that manure was the key to soil fertility” (pg 177).
Which reminded me of this podcast:
“The slow poisoning of the life of the soil by artificial manures is one of the greatest calamities which has befallen agriculture and mankind” (pg 179).
“One values a kind of liberty; the other, a kind of community. One sees nature instrumentally, as a set of raw materials freely available for use; the other believes each ecosystem has an inner integrity and meaning that should be preserved, eve if it constrains human actions. The choice lead to radically different pictures of how to live. What looks like a dispute over practical matters is an argument of the heart” (pg 250).
Kottke.org also read and wrote about this book, comparing it to Avengers: Infinity Wars. He wrote, “Thanos is a prophet and the Avengers are wizards…both are even specifically referred to using those exact words at different points in the movie. More specifically, Thanos is a Malthusian…he wants to cut the population of the galaxy in half to up everyone’s quality of life (via).
You can buy the book here.
A great and powerful read. A hard read. And a must read.
To paraphrase the many white men and women who have reached out to Eddo-Lodge, "Don't give up on us." Even though, sometimes, I want to.
Why I'm No Longer Talking to White People About Race
"Their (white people) intent is often not to listen or learn, but to exert their power, to prove me wrong, to emotionally drain me, and to rebalance the status quo (pg xii).
Racism is "about being in the position to negatively affect other people's life chances (pg 2).
"If all racism was easy to spot, grasp, and denounce as white extremism is, the task of the anti-racist would be simple. People feel that if a racist attack has not occurred, or the word 'nigger' has not been uttered, an action can't be racist. If a black person hasn't been spat at in the street, or a suited white extremist politician hasn't lamented the lack of British jobs for British workers, it's not racist (and if the suited politician has said that, then the racism of his statement will be up for debate, because it's not racist to want to protect your country!) - pg 63.
This is what structural racism looks like. It is not just about personal prejudice, but the collective effects of bias. It is the kind of recism that has the power to drastically impact people's life chances. Highly educated, high-earning white men are very likely to be landlords, bosses, CEOs, head teachers, or university vice chancellors. THey are almost certainly people in positions that influence others' lives. They are almost certainly the kind of people who set work-place cultures. They are unlikely to boast about their politics with colleagues or acquaintances because of the social stigma of being associated with racist views. But their racism is covert. it doesn't manifest itself in spitting at strangers in the street. Instead, it lies in an apologetic smile while explaining to an unlucky soul that they didn't get the job. It manifests itself in the flick of a wrist that tosses a CV in a bin because the applicant has a foreign-sounding name (pg 65).
This quote reminded me of LaDonna, "A security guard at the airport notices something going wrong on the tarmac, and takes it upon herself to fix it. It’s way harder than she expects." It's a podcast hosted by This American Life. And it is fully disturbing.
"In order to dismantle unjust, racist structures, we must see race. We must see who benefits from their race, who is disproportionately impacted by negative stereotypes about their race, and to who power and privilege is bestowed upon - earned or not - because of their race, their class, and their gender. Seeing race is essential to changing the system (pg 84).
White privilege is an absence of the negative consequences of racism . . . is the fact that if you're white, your race will almost certainly positively impact your life's trajectory in some way (pg 86,87).
The difference between racism and prejudice is that racism IS being prejudice, plus power (pg 88,89).
What if Hermione's character was black? "It brings to light the incredibly racialised language of blood purity used in the wizarding world, of mudbloods and purebloods. This is terminology that could have been easily lifted straight from Nazi Germany or apartheid South Africa. Hermione's parents were muggles after all, and that is how states and scientists have categorized race and fueled racism - as through lineage and blood. A black or mixed-race Hermione enduring spat-out slurs of 'mudblood' from he peers, plucked from her parents, told she's special and part of a different race altogether, might be very keen to assimilate, to be accepted. No wonder she tried so hard. No wonder she did her friend's homework, and was first to raise her hand in class. She was the model minority . . .
That some Harry Potter fans struggled to imagine a black Hermione meant that they couldn't imagine little black girls as precocious, intelligent, logical know-it-alls with hearts of gold . . . The imaginations of black Hermione's detractors can stretch to the possibility of a secret platform at King's Cross station that can only be accessed by running through a brick wall, they can't stretch to a black central character" (pg 138,139).
"There is an old saying about man's homophobia being rooted in a fear that gay men will treat him as he treats women" (pg 141). The same can probably be said about our racism.
I once recommended the book, The God of Small Things by Arundhati Roy because it was such a powerful story and I wanted someone to help me process through it. I was told the book was too harsh, to graphic, and not a "good Christian book." I remember being so frustrated because I loved it and felt it an extremely important book. And I just couldn't figure out why.
In later years it became clear that the reason I love that book was because it showed an element of life, a side of life, I had never known, experienced, or seen portrayed. It was raw and authentic, it was real, and it captivated me.
Americanah, by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is much the same. This is my second novel by Adichie and, like her other work, Half of a Yellow Sun, I couldn't put it down. Not only are Adichie's character extremely relatable (even when they aren't), they are beautiful and flawed. They hope and dream, they're destructive, and they portray a reality that many white authors fail to capture. And I just simply love it.
One of the main components of the novel is hair. It's a powerful symbol in the book - just as it is for life as well - that embodies and highlights the differences of race. Throughout the novel, whenever the distinction of hair is raised, I thought of this documentary by Chris Rock.
When Chris Rocks daughter, Lola, came up to him crying and asked, Daddy, how come I don't have good hair? the bewildered comic committed himself to search the ends of the earth and the depths of black culture to find out who had put that question into his little girl's head!
I haven't recommended this book to anyone in my family, but I have shared and gifted it to many of my friends, telling them all that, "It is one of my favorite books of the year!" Because it is.
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I was recommended this by a friend. It's okay.
If you love or even like their show, Fixer Upper, and if you want a super simple and lite read, it's worth it. There's a few small gems (the chapter on fear is pretty good. I might even have my son read it) and some interesting history to the show and their lives, but overall, I thought it a bit, I don't know, elementary? Nothing groundbreaking, nothing super deep, and nothing that will stick with you forever. Just like candy.
And every now and then, I take the free sucker from the teller at the bank and enjoy it the whole way home. Ain't nothing wrong with that.
This book started off extremely strong. Then . . meh.
Here are a few highlights, all from the first five pages.
We can pursue our ideals not out of diligence but because when they are realized there's joy, and joy is itself an insurrectional force against the dreariness and dullness and isolation of everyday life (pg xviii).
Memory produces hope in the same way that amnesia produces despair . . . One of the essential aspects of depression is the sense that you will always be mired in teh misery, that nothing can or will change. It's what makes suicide so seductive as the only visible exit from the prison of the present. There's a public equivalent to private depression, a sense that the nation or the society rather than the individual is stuck. Things don't always change for the better, but they change, and we can play a role in that change if we act. Which is where hope comes in, and memory, the collective memory we call history (pg xix).
The struggle for justice should never be abandoned because of the apparent overwhelming power of those who have the guns and the money and who seem invisible in their determination to hold onto it. That apparent power has, again and again, proved vulnerable to moral fervor, determination, unity, organization, sacrifice, wit, ingenuity, courage, patience - whether be blacks in Alabama and South Africa, peasants in El Salvador, Nicaragua and Vietnam, or workers and intellectuals in Poland, Hungry, and the Soviet Union itself (pg xxii).
We don't know what is going to happen, or how, or when, and that very uncertainty is the space for hope (pg xxiii).
This one reminded me of school shootings:
Even things that seem to happen suddenly arise from deep roots in the past or from long-dormant seeds (pg xxiv).
To hope is to gamble. It's to bet on the future, or your desires, on the possibility that an open heart and uncertainty is better than gloom and safety. To hope is dangerous, and yet it is the opposite of fear, for to live is to risk . . . hope calls for action; action is impossible without hope (pg 4).
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I really wish I hadn't of read this book.
I don't know how it came to be in my possession or why it made its way into my Amazon cart, but I definitely regret it. And because I can't seem to quit a book because I'm always hoping it will pick up and I'm terrified to miss out, I read the whole damn thing. Ugh.
Don't read it.